I’m super happy, totally settled, deeply in love, broke, and busy as fuck at work. O and I are wonderful. He was super supportive and read a book or worked on his own work while I worked several evenings this week. He made me dinner and brought me wine and was so supportive as I marathoned my way through so much work when I would rather have been doing anything else. After these work-filled evenings, we were able to connect and have some extremely amazing quality time together (read: mind-blowing sex). It was fabulous. One of the most interesting conversations we had was about how his other girlfriend told him how much she likes me. It means a lot to me that my newest metamour is on my team. I like her a lot, so it really makes my heart soar to know she feels the same. Furthermore, after the horrible experience with W as my first metamour, I’m a little terrified of a repeat performance, and hearing that the relationship is starting on a good note is so reassuring. Now we are at the weekend, and I haven’t seen O for a couple days and I’m missing his touch and presence in my life. Such is the life when working two jobs and dating two amazing men.
Things with A are fantastic. We are deepening our connection and comfort and commitment to each other. On our Friday date this week, we went out for dinner and then back to my place. I was kid-free, so this meant that play happened in the middle of the living room with all the space and opportunity that it provides. On such evenings, we take the opportunity for rope play that is otherwise impossible when a kid could wake up and knock on the door at any moment. There are few things that I like better than rope play, and this was no exception. Tied up, completely helpless, he grabbed my face in his hands, looked me in the eyes, and told me how much he loved me. It was one of those moments that makes my heart skip beats and leaves a lump in my throat. It was perfect.
Our play was fun, but I was unable to take much in the form of the pain I usually enjoy so much. I figure that the stress of the last week built up and was manifesting in increased pain sensitivity. It didn’t change how turned on I was, but I slowed things down and reset by using my big girl words to ask for what I needed. On these nights, we usually play for hours, taking breaks in between for cuddles and resetting, but it goes on and on. It’s truly amazing. Not long into the evening, A said he was feeling really awful. He came back from the bathroom and informed me that he had been vomiting. Since he wasn’t drunk, we concluded he was sick. I tucked him into bed, gave him water, and cuddled up to him and we slept. Honestly, sleeping in his arms all night was just as wonderful as the many orgasms I would have had if he’d been feeling better, but happily, he woke me up at 6 a.m. and I got the full force of his attention. Then we fell back to sleep in each other’s arms and woke at 10 a.m. A is usually gone from my place fairly early on Saturday mornings, so I was surprised when we woke up so late. His phone was dead, so I texted his wife to let her know that he had been sick and I’d let him sleep in, and she and I proceeded to have a conversation about some upcoming events and the fact that he needs some body wash and a phone charger at my place, and that she’s going to put together a package for him to bring over. All that awesomeness said, the next part of our conversation was even better. Here’s the screenshot:
I have wanted a closer relationship with A’s wife since we got together. It’s really important for me to get along with my metamours, so I’ve worked very hard to be a supportive girlfriend, to understand her boundaries and her limits, and to not try to push any of those. It occurs to me now, as her and A’s relationship evolves now that she has a boyfriend, and he and I are expanding our adventures, that part of why this is happening now is because I have worked so hard for things to be comfortable for her, that she feels like she can reach out to me. How my life has evolved in the last year is amazing. How A’s life has evolved is incredible. How our relationship has evolved is wonderful. The fact that this evolution includes a stronger relationship between A’s wife and I means so much to me. Reading her words accepting and appreciating me and being able to express my appreciation of her totally made my day today. Knowing that O was talking with his other girlfriend about how much she likes me adds to my happiness. The poly life I dreamed of early on is even better in reality.